I am 27 and this is the first Christmas that I have never been around family, and it has been a very hard day for me but a day with deep settled comfort in the love from my Jesus. I am in a place that I do not have family close to me and God has not put my husband in my life yet, and at times I could not help but to feel out of place, but I'm so very thankful for the friends that stepped in and made me feel like part of their family this weekend.
This morning I went to Christmas service at Oakcrest Church of Christ. I have several friends that go there and it was a wonderful service. Now, many may be reading not knowing that if you are in a Church of Christ service.....there will be no music with their singing, and let me tell you it is the most beautiful singing that I have heard in all my life. Their singing amazes me. I love to just sit and listen to the singing. Until this morning I don't think I realize just how the actual music interferes with the words that we sing at time. Now, don't stone me when I say that......it is just often time we get caught on a beat and don't pay attention to the words we are singing. I love music and instruments and don't plan to give that up, but this morning was just beautiful. Pastor Ben gave a wonderful message that I think has been part of series. At the end of the service they had everyone come to the front and pray and hold hands and sing Joy to the World. I love that song because Christ truly has brought joy to my life this year. However that was one part of the service that took me way out of my comfort zone......when we all had to go down front and pray and sing. I didn't know 1% of the people there and having to be so close to so many people I did not know made me so nervous. I started the hand thing that my therapist (and yes you read that word correct) told me I do when I really uncomfortable. I was going to stay for the community dinner, but I really wasn't doing well with being in large crowds of people that I did not know so a friend and I crashed another friends house for dinner and it was a wonderful dinner. Then I came home and took a 3 hour nap.
I would love to say that my emotions are in check and where they should be, but I am still struggling with not being at my mom's right now. As I type my family is having Christmas with each other, but this time next Saturday I will be at my moms "having Christmas" with them. She is saved cooking the ham until next Saturday. ;)
Like I said in my title......this has been a different Christmas for me. Meaning that yes, I'm sad that I'm not with my family, but two very big things has happened over the past week. One, is after years of struggling with the fact of "Am I really worth God loving question" I found my answer in God. God made me, provided Christ to die for my sin so that proves he loves me and when I accepted Christ and came into a right standing with God that made me worthy of his love because of the blood of Christ, and for that blood I am so very thankful. I have found my worth and value in my Lord. I know that He loves me and cares for me and that is now a deep understand that embedded in my heart. Many may not agree with what I say, but it is where I found peace.
And, next many may not know that my parents are divorced, which always meant holidays are very stressful for me because I had to be several places at once. I was always worried about who was mad or hurt because I many times had to choose one place or the other. One family or the other. This year was not like that......I could just concentrate upon God and his love for me because that is my favorite "present".
I'm going back to see my family next week. I'm looking forward to seeing them, but at the same time very nervous because I am not the same person I was the last time they saw me. I have grew and healed much since then. There have been many changes in my life. One being that now enforce boundaries that are healthy for me. It will be hard to keep those boundaries while there but those boundaries keep me safe and ensure that I don't get stressed out and can enjoy being with everyone.
I hope each of you had a wonderful Christmas filled with love, joy, and peace.
1 comment:
so proud of you! I looked for you at the dinner and wondered where you were. I am glad that you had fun with your friends though! You have been a great friend to me and I know that you will do great next week. Remember your boundaries and how much you have grown. Have a great time with your family!
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